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If you’re having doubts, ask yourself how many of these signs you can see in him and in your marriage.
1. He stops asking phrendly coupon about your life.
It was a little thing, but it allowed you to keep up to date with the important (and, yes, sometimes the not so important) goings on in each other’s lives.
2. He doesn’t listen to you.
When you do manage to engage him in a conversation – even the mundane ones about childcare or the leaky roof – he just zones out.
You get the occasional grunt or nod, but you can tell that he’s barely in the room with you, mentally speaking.
He’s thinking about something else, looking at his phone, watching TV, or doing something other than focusing his attention on what you are saying.
3. He has withdrawn all affection.
There are plenty of ways to show your spouse affection, but your husband has stopped doing any of these things.
4. He doesn’t instigate physical intimacy.
Let’s be honest, in many – though not all – marriages, it is the man who has the higher sex drive and who initiates sex more often than not.
But your trips to the bedroom have all but dried up, and when you do manage to get him between the sheets, it’s through your effort.
What’s more, the sex – if there is any – has become mechanical. There’s no real intimacy, no emotional connection. It’s just a case of getting the job done and going your separate ways again.
One small caveat: if this is the only sign you are seeing, you might want to consider whether your husband has suffered any recent performance issues in bed. These might be concerning him so much that he doesn’t want to have sex for fear that it’ll happen again.
5. He doesn’t do the things you ask him to do.
We all make requests of our spouses from time to time. We might need them to help with something or take care of a particular duty.
But if your husband no longer loves you, he will huff and puff at any little thing that you ask him to do.
6. He is more selfish than he used to be.
So you eat what he wants to eat, you go where he wants to go, you do what he wants to do.
7. He makes more plans without you.
You may have always had your own lives outside of the marriage, but your husband is now taking that to a whole new level.
He seems to be out doing something every weekend, he goes away with friends a lot, and he spends his evenings doing various hobbies.
Long gone are the days when you would spend a large proportion of your time together. You have been marginalized in your own relationship.
His aim is, of course, to avoid spending time with you because he has fallen out of love with you.
8. He doesn’t want to go on dates with you.
Not only does he spend a lot of time apart from you, he is not keen on going on any proper date nights with you.
Those occasions where you put all distractions to one side and focus entirely on each other are now few and far between.
He makes excuses as to why you shouldn’t go or keeps putting it off until weeks and months have passed.
