If you’re an outgoing fun loving person, you must constantly be meeting or being introduced to new women all the time.
Friends of friends, people you get chatting to in pubs and bars, people from your sports or social clubs, people from work or uni, people from where you live.
(Original post by cole-slaw) If you’re an outgoing fun loving person, you must constantly be meeting or being introduced to new women all the time.
Friends of friends, people you get chatting to in pubs and bars, people from your sports or social clubs, people from work or uni, people from where you live.
Also sports wise, the clubs are broken down by gender. (I tried trying out for the women’s netball team, but didn’t make the cut sigh..)
People wonder about this question and think it’s an issue of time, etc., but the reality is in a typical week the average person will interact with a bunch of people. The difficult thing is how to turn those fleeting interactions into something more. Your shyness is probably your #1 enemy here.
If you are already going out to clubs and so on, make an effort to talk to people and connect with them. If you don’t want to go up and talk to girls directly, meet some guys, click with them then get them to invite you out with them the next time they go out. The more people you meet, the more girls you’ll meet. Work on expanding your social circle and you should be able to meet more girls.
(Original post by miser) People wonder about this question and think it’s an issue of time, etc., but the reality is in a typical week the average person will interact with a bunch of people. The difficult thing is how to turn those fleeting interactions into something more. Your shyness is probably your #1 enemy here.
If you are already going out to clubs and so on, make an effort to talk to people and connect with them. If you don’t want to go up and talk to girls directly, meet some guys, click with them then get them to invite you out with them the next time they go out. The more people you meet, the more girls you’ll meet. Work on expanding your social circle and you should be able to meet more girls.
Maybe cos it’s my first time in these settings, but I find it impossible to talk to anyone in a club.. the music is blaring out so loudly!
In clubs though, how do you actually meet a girl/talk to her?
I think the social circle idea is a good one. Trouble is my course: 1. Is so hectic, giving me just https://datingreviewer.net/cs/tattoo-seznamka/ the evening to socialise. 2. Unfortunately most of the guys on my course are pretty arrogant, and I can only envisage them either not meeting any girls or only meeting girls like them.
Maybe cos it’s my first time in these settings, but I find it impossible to talk to anyone in a club.. the music is blaring out so loudly!
In clubs though, how do you actually meet a girl/talk to her?
I think the social circle idea is a good one. Trouble is my course: 1. Is so hectic, giving me just the evening to socialise. 2. Unfortunately most of the guys on my course are pretty arrogant, and I can only envisage them either not meeting any girls or only meeting girls like them.
I’m actually trying to do the same thing at the moment. I graduated a couple of years ago and have let myself become so busy that I don’t have people to go out with even when I do get some free time, so I’m willing to talk about this stuff in some detail if you want to shoot me a PM.
You must be meeting new people every day, surely?
For clubs there are a number of different ways you can do it. One of the easiest is every time you’re standing around waiting to order drinks, talk to someone nearby. You can pretty much say anything but something situational would be pretty good. For example “do you know who sings this?” or “cool shoes!” – something you’re both aware of. If you can get some chit chat going and exchange names then whenever you see them again later on that evening you can go over and talk to them a lot easier than others because you’ve already broken the ice. If you want you can ask them “who are you here with?” and “are they cool?” and so on to open up the opportunity to meet their friends. If you find you gel with anyone in particular you can add them on Facebook or something and suggest to go out again in the future. When people drink it opens them up and you can get the whole instant-best-friend thing. Best places to do this sort of stuff will be places where you’re part of the targeted demographic so you have things in common with the other people there (university, musical taste, etc.).
For girls specifically I’m a fan of being upfront since it saves a lot of time and comes across as confident (attractive). Something I might say is, “Hey, you’re really cute.” Then ask her a question (smiling). You could also say you wanted to talk to her because you liked her style, etc., instead if you want to avoid coming across too strongly (generally speaking the more attractive she is the more confident you should try to be). If she’s in a group it’s harder since you’d want to say something to the whole group and then only later when they like you you can tell them you’re going to borrow their friend (the girl you dig). If there are guys in the group you’ll want to open them because they’re usually not going to want you to come in and flirt with the girls they know until they think you’re cool.
If you’re chatting to a girl and it turns out she has a boyfriend, don’t fret it since she’s going to have single friends and if you get on well with her she’ll be open to introducing you (girls often like to set their friends up). If she doesn’t has a boyfriend and she digs you, you probably don’t want to get her to introduce you to anyone because you’re liable to get jealousy issues.
To reply to your points: 1. Don’t worry about that too much – most people socialise in the evenings because of daytime commitments too. 2. If you don’t get on well with the people you know, use them as a springboard to meet new people and go from there.
All of this is easier said than done but the most important thing is to just get out there, have fun, and when people see you having fun they will want to be part of it.
